Many scientists devoted their research to the phenomenon of femininity, femininity and masculinity during different historical periods. The relevance of this issue is difficult to overestimate, knowing that our era is characterized by the active participation of strong women in society. The roles of men and women in our time have undergone significant changes, causing the need for a new understanding and definition of true male and female positions. This process has become increasingly complex as the definition of these positions has acquired new characteristics and dimensions, marking the modern reality and development of gender identity. The discussion about what a real woman should be-brave and strong or timid and shy, active or passive-does not stop. Modern women choose different positions in defining their gender identity, which creates new questions and discussions. In the modern world, we observe various approaches of women to defining their role and their manifestations in everyday life. Some of them choose a traditionally feminine position that has its roots in past centuries, while others prefer an active masculine role. The question arises: why does a woman deviate from traditional ideas about femininity and choose a male position in the mental? What are the reasons behind this choice and what aspects accompany it? At what stage of her life does a woman decide to choose one or another position? In the future, it is important to take a quote from Freud from his work" The Death of the Oedipus Complex", which is of great importance for understanding the formation of a little girl:" Anatomy is fate. A girl's clitoris is analogous to a penis, however, comparing herself with a young man of the same age category, the child discovers that he is too small. This causes the child unpleasant feelings and becomes the basis for a sense of his own inferiority." Over a period of time, a girl consoles herself with the hope that when she grows up, she will have an organ as big as a boy's. But the female child perceives her current" defect" not as a difference in the sexual aspect, but explains it by the fact that she also once had an equally large penis, but lost it due to castration. She does not draw a general conclusion about other adult women, but assumes, similar to the phase of phallic development, that they have large and intact, that is, male genitalia. Thus, there is a significant difference, since the girl considers castration as a fact that has already happened, while the boy is afraid of the possibility of its realization"[2]. The very process of the formation of sexual differences, which occurs in the phase of phallic development, leads to the fact that the girl feels jealous of the penis, shows aggression towards her mother due to the lack of this organ in her, and a strong desire to receive a penis from her father. Eventually, this desire turns into a desire to have a child from the father.